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Comment on About Gayle Swift and That Matters 2 Me by Katie

Katie — Fri, 31 Aug 2012 19:20:21 +0000

Gayle – I can’t find your email to reply to you! Please email me again or wait till after the holiday weekend for me to answer, okay?! My computer failed and it’s been wacky without it!

Comment on “Who Do You Think You Are?” by stuffthatmatters2me

stuffthatmatters2me — Sun, 26 Aug 2012 18:16:07 +0000

I agree that the desire to connect with our origins is universal whether one is adopted or was raised in one’s birth family. The child’s best interest must always trump parental insecurities.

Comment on “Who Do You Think You Are?” by celiaboop

celiaboop — Sun, 26 Aug 2012 17:45:03 +0000

I can understand the insecurities of the adoptive parent. Maybe they don’t feel like they did a good enough job as a parent or they’ve lacked in some way that causes the adopted child to want to search for their biological parents. However, I believe it’s natural that the adopted child would want to make that connection and maybe necessary on a physiological or psychological basis.

Feel free to join and/or comment on my blogs: http://nowmotivated.blogspot.com and http://funwithmrwrong.wordpress.com. I think there may be some synergies we can gain with sharing.

Good luck in your endeavors to educate on the adoption process and promote the rights of adoptive children and their adoptive parents.

Comment on “Who Do You Think You Are?” by stuffthatmatters2me

stuffthatmatters2me — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 11:06:08 +0000

There is a lot of education to be done in the adoption arena. Too often the adoptee is assumed to have magically transitioned from birth family to adoptive family without any personal “cost” and minus any memories or attachments to their roots. This absurd assumption permeates our cultural attitude. It is naive and hurtful. Adoptees experience a deep and painful loss that reverberates through their lives.
Adoption is an important well-intentioned option but it is not without emotional cost. It is essential to educate adoptive parents so that they can adequately recognize and tune in to their children’s feelings/challenges about their adoptions.

Comment on “Who Do You Think You Are?” by TAO

TAO — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 22:26:49 +0000

At least two of the participants have been adoptive parents – it bothered me because one has said things that lead me to believe her children would “not have her blessing” to do the same.

Great post!

Comment on Au Revoir by stuffthatmatters2me

stuffthatmatters2me — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 20:30:07 +0000

Thanks, Betty. I appreciate the compliment.

Comment on Au Revoir by Bette Lee Crosby

Bette Lee Crosby — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 20:18:52 +0000

Gayle, just saw this and can’t believe I’m not already suscribed to your blog. Going to sign up.

Comment on Keystrokes or Brushstrokes? by Candice Coghill

Candice Coghill — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 02:26:29 +0000

Gayle, you always have such a unique perspective on your subject and I always enjoy the nuanced distinction of your well-chosen words ! Great post

Comment on Au Revoir by Candice Coghill

Candice Coghill — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 02:23:26 +0000

Gayle, I’m not sure how I missed this post, but I’m glad I found it tonight. It is truly lovely.

Comment on Bulls and Frogs by Candice Coghill

Candice Coghill — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 18:57:11 +0000

Ribbit ! Ouch ! LOL